It’s a matter of walking a tightrope when you broach on the topic of appearances. It’s a known fact that society enjoys stereotyping all genders as certain people with certain appearance requirements they must make to be “beautiful” or “handsome” or “cute”.
I, myself, bite my thumb when it comes to these topics because I’m not “beautiful” or “cute”. I look like… me. I don’t have that symmetrical features, double eye-lids (I have one double eye-lid which is kind of weird yet unique, I guess), pouty lips, and pronounced cheekbones.
I know what it’s like to feel “un-beautiful” because I don’t look like the models portrayed on television. So I am extremely annoyed when people stereotype women, or all people in general, to look a certain way, talk a certain way, and act a certain.
But we are all humans. When we meet a stranger, we first take note of their appearance and how they look.
Stereotyping is not a society problem; it’s a human problem.
We apply the people we see around us to the people who are our friends and strangers. That is how a stereotype is born. Because television and other types of media are so wide-reaching, society itself becomes enamored with the people on the screen and use those models to judge the people around them.
We can’t stop stereotyping. It’s our natural instinct to look at how people’s appearances and make a split second decision about whether or not that person is dangerous. It’s what our ancestors did. It’s what we still do.
But we can change the way we think about the stereotyped person. Because like you, every person has a heart, no matter how they look and act to the clothes they wear. The supermodel that you see on television who is revered for a body has a heart; the random stranger you pass on the street has a heart; that random girl who wears glasses and always has her nose buried in a book has a heart.
Stereotyping is a natural instinct for humans. It’s what we do with this natural instinct that determines the outcome of the people in our society.
Will we fall prey to the everlasting tide of color versus color? Will we fall prey in the battle of the beautiful versus the ugly?
Or will we finally overcome this bar of stereotyping, open our eyes, and see everyone for who they truly are, despite their skin color, despite how they look, despite what color they bleed: a human with a heart, background, and culture.
Stereotyping is only a threat if we make it one.
And with the death of George Floyd, the discrimination against Asian Americans due to the coronavirus, and the constant story of the white man in power, it’s clear that our society is falling prey to stereotyping, which will be the end of us all.
Because who can we truly trust if we judge people on how they look?
So, while I do not encourage stereotyping, it cannot be helped.
But don’t put your heart and faith into what your “perfect stereotype” tells you.
Appearances don’t determine friendships and relationships. The hearts, minds, and souls behind people determine friendships and relationships.
Lots of love, and open your eyes,